“When The Music Fades” In Your Marriage

I know its been over a month since I’ve posted the next article in this series from Focus on the Family. Its been an interesting summer so far to say the least. For here in Alaska we don’t get too many summers with 90 degree weather and me and my family have been enjoying it while it lasted. For some reason the harder I try to stay on track the quicker I seem to get off…  Oh well I’ll take it as it comes. :) Hope you enjoy this series!

Christina – Three Passions

“After the Fall, the beautiful harmony within human relationships and, in fact, the entire creation, devolved into dissonance.”

By most standards Nancy and Josh’s marriage was exemplary. Their middle-class status was comfortable. They both loved each other and adored their three children. Josh was involved in the men’s ministry at their church, and Nancy taught the junior high bible class. The kids were generally well-behaved, and everyone respected this family.

Josh and Nancy had no major issues confronting their relationship, but lately an inexplicable tension was building between them. Nancy began to complain that Josh expended so much of his time and energy at work that he had very little left for her and the kids. In his mind, Josh was simply fulfilling his responsibility to his family by providing for them. He was trying to be a good husband and father, but his efforts seemed to be increasingly criticized. And Josh, like Nancy, was becoming progressively more frustrated.

No Barriers

Nancy and Josh’s difficulty is nothing new. In fact, Genesis sheds some light on this relational state of affairs. Prior to the first human couple’s rejection of God’s goodness, they lived in a protected environment, with unlimited resources and an intimate connection between each other and the Creator. There was no power struggle between them, no critical view of the other. In biblical language, they “were naked and not ashamed” (Genesis 2:26).

As husband and wife, they lived in full openness before one another and God as they “walked in the cool of the evening with God.” There were no barriers, no personal agendas, no unrealistic expectations of the other and no attempts to find life from the other. They both expressed to, and received from, each other the authentic love of God peculiarly mediated through them as male and female. They participated in the sacred dance of marriage, living in the full, dynamic life of their mutual Creator.

From Harmony to Dissonance

This beautiful harmony within human relationships and, in fact, the entire creation, eventually devolved into dissonance. Once they pursued life from a source other than God, the man and woman introduced into human relationships conflicts that continue to afflict us all. They first hid themselves from one another with leaves, and then they hid from the Creator among the trees. The deep, spiritual harmony that existed between the man, woman and God was disrupted.

Once banished from the garden, they entered a hostile environment with limited resources. The woman began to depend increasingly on the man, where she previously received freely from God, and the man began the arduous task of providing for his family by the sweat of his brow. The “battle of the sexes” began: “You shall desire him, and he shall rule over you” (Genesis 3:16). Sociologists have long recognized that power struggles occur in relationships primarily due to conflicts over limited resources.1

The Genesis text anticipated, and sadly described, this lingering condition.

Addressing Some Sour Notes

Whatever one thinks of the Genesis description of human relationships, it rings true and offers some valuable insights for marriage:

  • While interpreters debate the specifics, Genesis indicates the emergence of a power struggle between male and female (Genesis 3:16). Whatever is involved in the “woman’s desire for the man,” and his “rule over her,” we need to acknowledge that power struggles do occur within relationships. Though often subtle, they are real and must be recognized. If allowed to remain unchecked, power struggles can erode relational intimacy.
  • We tend to seek life and identity from sources other than God. When this occurs, we place unrealistic demands on our spouse. Since only God can serve as the true source of our lives, any attempt to receive meaning and purpose from our spouse will leave us – and the other – frustrated. Additionally, rather than expressing and receiving God’s love in the relationship, we’ll drain it of all energy.
  • As in the Genesis story, couples tend to “cover themselves” from the other. This is the biblical language to describe “the fear of intimacy” as well as “trust issues.” God intends for married couples to experience full and open disclosure of themselves to one another. Though difficult to do, such honesty is the key to deeper intimacy.

In the following article, we’ll consider in more detail some ways that couples can move into deeper intimacy.

Why Questions…..Funny… and True

Got this in an email and just had to share it with you all.

In a couple days I will be posting a series about the sacred dance of marriage which will start with Created For Connection by Garry Brantley 

All the while I will have funny little sayings or jokes to start the day off :) Hope you will enjoy this next series coming up.

If you have something that you would like me to post about that you have been wanting to know about or question please let me know and I will see how to incorporate an article on it…

Have a BLESSED day in the Lord!!

Why do supermarkets make the sick walk all the way to the back of the store
to get their prescriptions while healthy people can buy cigarettes at the front?


Why do people order double cheeseburgers, large fries, and a diet coke?




Why do banks leave vault doors open and
then chain the pens to the counters?


Why do we leave cars worth thousands of dollars in
our driveways and put our useless junk in the garage?


EVER WONDER…

Why the sun lightens our hair, but darkens our skin?


Why can’t women put on mascara with their mouth closed?


Why don’t you ever see the headline ‘Psychic Wins Lottery’?

Why is ‘abbreviated’ such a long word?


Why is it that doctors and attorneys call what they do ‘practice’?




Why is lemon juice made with artificial flavoring,
and dish washing liquid made with real lemons?

Why is the man who invests all
your money called a broker?



Why is the time of day with the
slowest traffic called rush hour?

Why isn’t there mouse-flavored cat food?


Why didn’t Noah swat those two mosquitoes?




Why do they sterilize the needle for lethal injections?




You know that indestructible black box that is
used on airplanes? Why don’t they make
the whole plane out of that stuff??




Why don’t sheep shrink when it rains?


Why are they called apartments when they are all stuck together?




If flying is so safe,
why do they call the airport the terminal?


Now that you’ve smiled at least once, it’s your turn to spread the
stupidity and send this to someone you want to bring a smile
to (maybe even a chuckle)… We all need to smile every once in a while.

OH you didn’t smile – well how about this one:

God promised men that good and

obedient wives would be found in

all corners of the world……

then He made the world round

and laughed and laughed……

“Faith is not believing that God CAN …
It is knowing that He will”

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